26/02/2011 at 7:05 PM (Affirmations, Healthly Living, Inspirational, Relationships, Self Reflections, Words of Wisdom)
Tags: Acts of Faith, affirmations, confidence, empower, empowerment, In The Meantime, inspiration, Iyanla Vanzant, Life coach, life coaching course, motivation, motivational speaker, personal development, personal growth, personal power, self discovery, self help, self-esteem, spiritual strength, spirituality, transformation, truth
I am my single most important investment. It has taken me years to completely embrace this idea. I spent many years investing in my outward appearance. Now, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that it isn’t important to be presentable and dress nicely. After all, your first impression is what people see. What I am saying, however, is that it is as important, dare if I say more important to invest in yourself as it relates to your authentic self, and nurturing your spiritual and personal growth. As I pondered my thoughts while writing this, I had to consider what I deemed important at different stages of my life. A nice purse, a sexy pair of shoes, my nails and hair immaculate, of course. Whether I could afford the “real” thing or not, it would “look” as if I could. Let’s consider these next few items…
This could easily be an investment of $349 for this Coach purse.
This investment is approximately $870 – Louis Vuitton Marbella shoes.
A decent Mani/Pedi is about $70.
Weaves, well they can cost upwards of $1,000 or more!
Investing in yourself is P•R•I•C•E•L•E•S•S!
How do you invest in yourself? Well, I invest in myself by purchasing books that expand my base of knowledge, challenge me and enlighten me. I attend conferences and seminars that will enrich my life experience, my business or my skill set. I have more recently invested in a monthly coaching program. I also invest in myself by making sure I have the kind of people I respect, admire and can learn from are in my inner AND outer circle. Another way to invest in yourself is by listening more and talking less. This is a freebie! Lastly, I invest in my spiritual development. I have a spiritual family that includes my church family as well as those friends who are pursuing their spirituality in other forms. I participate in spiritual activities and surround myself with spiritual people whenever I can.
When you begin to invest as much money and time IN yourself as you spend ON yourself you are well on your way to becoming a total package. What is it worth to you to invest in yourself?
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10/02/2011 at 10:12 PM (Affirmations, Healthly Living, Inspirational, Self Reflections)
On Monday, I decided not to wear any makeup to work. I have never done this in my entire life. Well, that’s not exactly true. I didn’t wear makeup when I was a young girl. But, I was always fascinated with cosmetics. Eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, lipliners, lipsticks, gloss, foundation, blush, highlighters, etc. A menagerie of products that would make you over. Fabulous, right? I still remember the day that I decided to “arch” my eyebrows. I believe I was 11 years old. I reached in to the medicine cabinet and picked up my father’s razor. I proceeded to shave off my right eyebrow in its entirety. As soon as I realized what I had done, my mother walked in to the bathroom. She was mortified! I can still remember the look on her face! For the next month my nickname was “scotched eyebrows”. Yes, she used the name scotched as a noun, but that is besides the point.
I have worn some form of makeup since I was 16 and I’m 44 years old. If I didn’t have on full makeup, at the very least I would have eyeliner and lipstick in the 80s and 90s. I started to wean myself from eyeliner in 2000. It was a major process, too. I felt so weird without it. I had to get to know myself again without it. The color around my eyes began to lighten soon after I stopped wearing it and I began to look fresh-eyed. I would wear eyeliner every now and then, but I never fell in love with it again. I would go through these phases where I would wear makeup everyday and then wean myself from it because I felt like a slave to it. It wouldn’t be fun anymore. It was like I HAD to have it. It was a Must Have everyday. I can’t go to the store without makeup. I can’t sweat while working out because my makeup will melt. Wait, don’t kiss me, my lipstick will come off. Geez! That sounds so silly now, but I did say those things.
I admit that as I’ve matured and fallen more in love with myself, I have let go lots of hang-ups that used to run my life. Although, I had come to a place where I could go outside without lipstick and just wear lip balm, I hadn’t come to the place where I would allow anyone to see me without my eyebrows filled in. You see, my eyebrows never quite grew back after my first arching. They were never full like Brooke Shields’. Each and every day I would rise and fill them in before leaving the house.
Monday, I decided to wash my face, put on my moisturizer, spritz and dry my hair, put on some lip balm and walk out the door. I had a slight panic attack when I pulled into the parking lot at work, but I took a deep breath and kept it moving. I needed to follow through on my decision. My reasoning for this act was to prove to myself that I am good enough, beautiful enough to go anywhere without any makeup, completely natural. When I walked into the building and arrived at my office I went about my day as usual. My supervisor and I talked as though nothing was different. I did, however, point out to her that I didn’t have on any makeup, which she acknowledged, but it wasn’t a big deal to her. We discussed it, laughed about it and went on with our day. On Tuesday, I decided to try it again. Again, no big deal. I did have a little anxiety once or twice but it quickly went away. I began to realize that people treat you like you treat yourself. If you act “as if” it’s a problem to be natural, then that’s the vibe you will receive. The first 48 hours went so well that I decided to repeat it on Wednesday. Again, no big deal. I feel that I accomplished my goal and overcame a private fear this week. Today, I tweezed the extra hairs from my eyebrows, pulled out my eyebrow filler and began to shape them. I added a little bronzer to my forehead and cheeks. I finished my look with a little clear lip gloss.
I looked in the mirror and smiled. You see, with or without makeup I am beautiful. Beautiful faces are those that wear whole-soul honesty there!